5 Things Youth Pastors Need to Stop Doing Immediately • Ep. 28, Beyond the Youth Room

Ellen Hembree • April 23, 2024

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In this latest episode of "Beyond the Youth Room," hosts Keith and Ryne discuss practices that youth leaders need to reconsider to improve their ministry effectiveness. They share five specific behaviors that are prevalent among youth pastors, but may not be serving their congregations well. Do any of these resonate?

  1. Inappropriate Language:
    The phrase "loving on kids" is highlighted as problematic due to its potential for misunderstanding outside of the church context. The hosts argue that while the intention is benign, the phrasing can be perceived as inappropriate or alarming.
  2. Outsourcing Curriculum:
    Keith and Ryan discuss the pitfalls of relying heavily on pre-packaged curriculums. They emphasize the importance of personal engagement with Scripture and crafting messages that resonate with and are relevant to one's own youth group.
  3. Overemphasis on Invite Nights:
    The concept of "invite nights," where youth are encouraged to bring friends, is critiqued. The hosts suggest that making every meeting inviting and meaningful might be more beneficial than focusing on special events.
  4. Excessive Focus on Entertainment:
    They discuss the shift needed from prioritizing highly polished, entertainment-centric youth events towards fostering genuine, relational environments where spiritual growth can occur.
  5. Neglecting Social Media:
    The fifth point addresses the underutilization of social media in youth ministries. The hosts argue that social media, when used effectively, can serve as the "front door" to engaging youth in a platform they frequent and understand.


Episode 28 challenges youth leaders to reevaluate their approaches to ensure they are fostering environments conducive to spiritual and communal growth. The hosts' insights are geared toward helping youth pastors align their methods more closely with the needs and realities of today's teens. By addressing these five areas, youth leaders can enhance their impact and connect more deeply with their members.

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