Apostle Paul's Top 4 Rebukes of Modern Youth Ministries REVEALED

Ellen Hembree • June 4, 2025

What Would Paul Say to Today's Youth Groups?

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If the Apostle Paul were to write a letter to American youth groups today, would it be a letter of encouragement or correction? Would he celebrate our passion or challenge our priorities? In a world where current TikTok trends often overshadow biblical knowledge, where youth group can feel more like entertainment than spiritual formation, and where social media "clicks" shape community more than Christ does, it's a question worth asking. This isn't about shaming, but about sharpening, because reaching the next generation requires more than just fun vibes and pizza nights—it requires truth, and Paul wouldn't hold back.

Paul's perspective might be hard for us to grasp. He might wonder, "What do you mean there are Christians who don't do anything?" He'd see how easily young people recall memes and trends, yet struggle to locate basic scriptures. So, what specific truths might Paul address if he were speaking to American youth ministries today?

1. The Call for Biblical Literacy

Paul would undoubtedly challenge the lack of biblical literacy among students. In 2 Timothy 3:14-17, he emphasizes continuing in what has been learned from childhood, highlighting that "all Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work."

Many students, even those who have grown up in the church, get lost when asked to turn to a specific passage. Yet, they can easily memorize song lyrics or social media trends. Paul would likely ask why these kids know all the latest internet fads but can't find books of the Bible. He'd remind us that we shouldn't have low expectations for teenagers, as some in ministry suggest. This isn't just about knowledge; it's about the heart. As Paul might paraphrase, "Do not be infants tossed by every wind of TikTok theology." We must equip students for the word of Christ to dwell in them richly, not fleeting online content.

2. The Importance of Spiritual Discipline

Paul would also emphasize the lack of spiritual discipline. In 1 Timothy 4:7-8, he instructs us to "train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come." Many students are incredibly devoted to athletic training, which has temporary value. But godliness prepares them for eternity.

Students today are often spiritually malnourished and inconsistent in practices like prayer, reading, and worship. Our society increasingly structures everything for them. While we can't meet daily for scripture memorization, we can equip them to take ownership of their faith. If students are just "attending when it's convenient," are they truly training for eternity? Paul might ask, "Athletes train for a crown that fades. Are you training for eternity or just attending when it's convenient?"

3. From Consumer Christianity to Servant Leadership

Paul would challenge our tendency towards consumer Christianity over servant leadership. In Philippians 2:3-7, he exhorts us to "do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves," pointing to Christ's example of emptying himself and taking the form of a servant. Paul might struggle to understand how there could be Christians who "don't do anything"—who don't grow, serve, or share their faith. He'd be baffled by the apathy and complacency that can creep into our Christian walk.

Youth group is often treated like a product to be consumed, not a mission to join. If we ask students what they want, it will likely be entertainment, not spiritual formation. Paul might ask, "Have this mind among you, not 'What can I get out of youth group?' but 'How can I serve like Christ did?'" The goal is to move youth groups from being mere programs to being groups of middle and high schoolers actively working to share the Gospel in their world.

4. Overcoming Disunity and Cliques

Finally, Paul would address disunity and cliques within the group. Galatians 3:27-28 states, "For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." If someone were to walk into your youth group, would they see a unified body or a collection of social cliques, mirroring a school lunchroom?

While it's natural to gravitate towards those with similar interests, these preferences should not create division or hinder the spread of the Gospel. Paul might paraphrase, "Was Christ divided? You are one body. Stop acting like strangers in your own family." As youth leaders and parents, we need to challenge students, like Ryne challenges his son, to engage with everyone and not act like strangers in their own family.

A Glimmer of Hope

Despite these challenges, Paul would likely offer encouragement. There seems to be a growing movement away from an "attractional" model that burns out leaders and produces little fruit. Many youth ministries are shifting back to what truly matters: spiritual formation and equipping students to live out their faith. It's a realization that "if you build it, they will come" simply isn't working.

Ultimately, while it's interesting to consider what Paul would write, we must remember that Jesus is present with us now. He sees how we operate, our priorities, and our passions. Would Jesus approve of how we spend our time in youth ministry? If we envision Him helping us plan programs, study sermons, or equip students to share the Gospel, what would that look like? Let's adopt the mentality of adding "with Jesus" to every task—planning lessons with Jesus, spending time with students with Jesus—because He is ever-present in our lives and ministries.

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If the "why" isn't clear, students often feel like they're just "meeting until they graduate... then meeting until they die, move, or graduate." As Michael Hyatt says, "People lose their way when they lose their why." Action Steps: Set a Bold Vision: Clearly define the purpose and mission of your youth ministry. What is God calling your specific group to do? Communicate Constantly: Use visual reminders, consistent messaging, and empower students by handing them the mission. Don't just invite them; challenge them to own it. Secret Shop Your Ministry: Consider having trusted (even non-believing) individuals or teens from outside your group "secret shop" your ministry to get honest feedback on clarity and impact. 2. You're Not Excited to Go to Youth Group (and You're Not Sure Why) We all have off nights or exhausting weeks. But if you find yourself regularly dreading youth group without a clear reason, it's a red flag. This isn't about faking enthusiasm, but recognizing a deeper issue. Ryne shared a recent experience where focusing on tasks instead of connecting with students drained his excitement. Action Steps: Evaluate Your Life Holistically: Burnout often stems from imbalances. Examine your physical, emotional, relational, and financial health. Is ministry becoming an idol? Talk to a Trusted Mentor: Share your feelings with someone who can offer perspective and ask insightful questions. Schedule Vision Retreats: Take time away, even if it's just a few hours, to get alone with God, re-evaluate your calling, and plan for the next season. Resources like retreathood.com can help connect you with free retreat spaces for ministry leaders. Reflect: When was the last time you walked into youth group with passion instead of pressure? Has it become more of a job than a calling? 3. Prayer is a Last Resort, Not Your First Oswald Chambers famously said, "Prayer does not fit us for the greater work. Prayer is the greater work." If you're constantly rushing through tasks and prayer becomes an afterthought, your ministry might be running on fumes instead of divine power. Action Steps: Study Jesus' Prayer Life: He modeled consistent, intentional prayer, even amidst intense ministry. Pray for Students by Name: Implement a system to regularly pray for individual students and specific schools or areas within your community. Make Prayer a Part of Your Ministry: Dedicate time during programs for collective prayer and teach students how to pray. Linger with the Lord: Beyond daily rhythms, seek extended times of prayer and communion with God. 4. You're Just Copying What Works Elsewhere Are you reacting to popularity or listening for purpose? While borrowing methods isn't inherently bad, exclusively copying other successful ministries without discerning God's unique call for your context can lead to an inauthentic and less impactful ministry. Ryne shared the "cutting the ends off the roast" analogy – doing things simply because they've always been done that way, or because someone else does them, can stifle true innovation and purpose. Action Steps: Ask "Why" for Every Activity: Go through your weekly activities and programs and genuinely ask why you do each one. Are they serving your unique mission? Embrace Your Ministry's Uniqueness: What is God uniquely positioning your church and youth ministry to do? Are you reaching an overlooked group or addressing a specific need in your community? Utilize Spiritual Assessments: Tools like the "four-tier assessment" can help you measure spiritual growth in your students. This helps determine if what you're doing is actually working and aligning with your goals, rather than just copying a trend. 5. You've Lowered the Bar Just to Keep Them Coming This warning sign manifests in various ways, from avoiding discipline with disruptive students to shying away from deeper biblical truths to attract more people. Lowering the bar not only alienates serious students but also communicates a lack of vision for growth. Just as you wouldn't use "baby talk" with a child forever, you shouldn't "dumb down" biblical truth. Action Steps: Define and Uphold Your Standards: Clearly articulate the behavioral and spiritual expectations for your ministry. Prioritize Growth Over Popularity: Focus on discipleship and challenging students to grow in their faith, even if it means a smaller initial attendance. Address Issues Directly: Don't avoid difficult conversations or disciplinary actions, as this can lead to a loss of respect from other students. If any of these warning signs resonate with you, it's a sign to pause, pray, and re-evaluate. Remember, God has a unique purpose for your ministry, and by addressing these areas, you can lead a more vibrant, effective, and fulfilling youth ministry. Which of these warning signs hits closest to home for you, and what's one small step you can take this week to address it?

5 Youth Ministry Myths YOU Probably Believe

By Ellen Hembree • July 1, 2025

Five Youth Ministry Myths Busted: Unpacking Hidden Assumptions for Deeper Student Growth Check out the podcast here . For years, many of us in youth ministry have held onto certain "truths" that seemed foundational. But what if these deeply ingrained beliefs are actually hindering the spiritual growth, leadership, and impact of our students? In this post, inspired by a recent discussion with Ryne , we're diving into five common youth ministry myths that might be negatively impacting your work and revealing the liberating truths behind them. Myth 1: Students are the Church of Tomorrow This is a common refrain, but it's a limiting one. While students certainly will lead the church in the future, the more critical truth is that students are the church of today . This isn't just about giving them roles; it's about recognizing the Holy Spirit's immediate work in their lives. As Ryne highlighted, there's "no junior Holy Spirit." A seven-year-old who trusts Christ has the same Spirit living within them as any adult. Think of King Josiah, who began his reign at just eight years old and became one of Israel's most faithful kings. Or consider Jesus's instruction to "let the little children come to me, for such as the kingdom of heaven." If our primary goal is to make disciples, and we know that most people make a decision for Christ during their youth, then investing heavily in kids and student ministry isn't just a good idea—it's essential for the church's health now and in the future. We need to equip them to be the church today, not just someday. Myth 2: You Need a Large Youth Group to Make a Difference Many youth pastors feel the pressure to grow their numbers, believing that a larger group equates to greater impact. However, this is a pervasive myth. The reality is that God moves through the faithful, not necessarily the large groups . The average youth group size is often cited as around 12—a number with some interesting biblical parallels! Think of the impactful stories of D.L. Moody and Billy Graham, both of whom were led to the Lord by Sunday school teachers with only a handful of students. David Livingstone, the missionary, saw only one convert in his lifetime of faithful service, yet his groundwork laid the foundation for widespread Christianity across Sub-Saharan Africa. God's increase may not always be visible in your lifetime, but faithfulness in the small things often yields exponential, unseen results. Myth 3: Students Need More Theology Before Being Used This myth suggests that students need to accumulate a vast amount of biblical knowledge or attend countless classes before they can truly live out their faith or share the Gospel. The liberating truth is: If they know enough to believe, they know enough to share. Consider the woman at the well, who immediately went to tell her town about Jesus after their conversation, or Philip and the Ethiopian eunuch, whose encounter in a chariot led to the spread of the Gospel in Ethiopia. Even the slave girl who told Naaman about Elijah—she had "bad theology" in the sense that it was God, not Elijah, who could heal him, yet her simple faith led to Naaman finding God. When students are encouraged to share their faith, even with incomplete knowledge, it often deepens their dependence on the Lord and prompts them to seek answers to questions they didn't even know they had. Students, especially those in public schools, are surrounded by thousands of peers daily—a mission field far larger than most adults encounter regularly. Leveraging this time for them to share their faith can lead to incredible growth and impact. Myth 4: Youth Ministry Success Equals Church Attendance After Graduation While we certainly desire for students to remain connected to the local church after they graduate, measuring youth ministry success solely by post-graduation attendance is a false metric. The true goal is lifelong transformation and a genuine commitment to living for Christ. Studies have even suggested that a significant portion of regular churchgoers may not have a true relationship with Christ. The church isn't successful when it's full; it's successful when it's faithful. Our aim isn't to create lifelong "consumers" of church services, but to equip students to be active, growing, and serving members of the local body of Christ. Are they serving? Are they growing spiritually? These are better indicators of lifelong transformation than mere retention. Myth 5: Students Don't Want Authority In an increasingly uncertain world, it's a myth that students inherently reject authority. In reality, they crave guidance . What they reject is hypocrisy. Post-COVID studies revealed a significant decline in trust in institutions like government and healthcare, but one group that maintained high trust among teens was "elders"—those older than them. Students are looking for authentic, relational authority figures who will speak truth to them, even if it's challenging or uncomfortable. They want to know what's true, and they will flock to those who are willing to share it with love and integrity. These five myths have perhaps been unknowingly shaping our approaches to youth ministry. By shifting our perspective and embracing these truths, we can better equip and empower our students for genuine spiritual growth and impactful lives for Christ, today. What myths have you believed that have been busted in your ministry journey? Share your thoughts in the comments below!